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Don't Be An Ugly American

"Hey Mom, can you buy this for me!" the young girl said in a high-pitched, whiney voice. Before the mother even had a chance to answer, her son said, in an arrogant tone, "Why don't they speak English here? Oh, and why is the food so gross here?"

We couldn't believe our ears. Did we just hear that? Perhaps the worst part was the trendy t-shirt the young boy was wearing that featured a prominent pattern with a big American flag.

Is this the image we want to give the United States? For that matter, it doesn't matter what country you represent! On a recent trip I did some research to find out how we all can avoid being, as they say, "The Ugly American." When we use the word "ugly" we're not talking about bad fashion sense, we're talking about poor manners and etiquette. The humble traveler, on the other hand, has hopes of learning new things.

When traveling, remember this phrase: "People don't care about who you are or what you know, until they know how much you care." This concept works with ALL forms of people-relations: friendship, marriage, customer support, sales, and yes, even traveling as a tourist.

Here are five basic tips to ensure that you don't embarrass yourself or give your home country a bad name...

#1: Learn some keywords and phrases. This is a terrific way to show people that you do care. It always amazes us how many people leave the United States with no intention of speaking any language other than English. You don't need to learn the entire language in a few days, but even a few words and phrases can make a huge impact on the locals.

NOTE: This is also a great way to defend yourself when pushy street merchants approach you to buy their products. If you can say "No thank you" in the native language, the locals will know that you're not a typical tourist and probably not an easy target.

Even if you're struggling to learn some words and phrases, keep putting in the effort and don't stop trying. Politely express that you're still learning the language and they might just offer some pointers in the process. When someone speaks English to you, show appreciation for their efforts as well.

#2: Take down the volume. When traveling, remember that you're a guest in that country. Your vacation destination is someone else's home. And we're sure the last thing you would want in your home is loudmouth. The same is true elsewhere in the world.

When you are on a train, in a bus, sightseeing, or eating dinner at a restaurant, keep the noise down. Americans have a reputation for being loud, so if you can keep your volume low then you will be noticed-in a positive way.

#3: Mind the traditions and culture. Every country does things in their own unique way. To avoid offending the locals and their traditions, take some time to learn about their culture and history.

Reference some books or do some research online... seriously. Consider visiting the country's home website. Discover how they talk about their own country and how they perceive themselves. What's important to them? Be culturally sensitive. Think about what you're going to say before you say it. If you appreciate their culture, they will appreciate you.

#4: Be open-minded. When you travel, expect to be put in situations that are unfamiliar to you. Maybe it's a new kind of food, a new group of people, or a new activity. Instead of denying an opportunity to try something different, welcome it and keep a positive outlook. The more you are willing to experience and understand about a new country, the more interesting and exciting your trip will be.

#5: Don't be arrogant. An arrogant attitude will quickly separate you from great people and unique experiences (believe me, I've seen it happen many, many times). Just because people don't do things the same way does not mean they're doing it the wrong way.

Like the old saying goes, "Seek to understand before you're understood." Instead of getting angry or frustrated, get curious. Discover why people act the way they do and you will accomplish three things: One you'll learn more about other people, their history, and their customs, two, your interest will show people that you care, and three, you'll probably learn some new things about yourself as well.

Treat everybody like an equal and you will have a much more enjoyable trip. You can express your views but respect that other people may feel differently.

Most importantly, keep in mind that your actions will determine the way the next American is treated. Unfair? Maybe, but it is reality. Be considerate of those traveling after you. If you don't care about them, then you probably won't gain much from your international travel anyway. If that's the case, save your money, stay home, and give me your ticket (hey, it's worth asking). Remember, respect, common courtesy, and a modest attitude is appreciated in every part of the world. Enjoy your travels.

Much success,

- Kent Healy

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